Who Am I To Talk About Fertility?
I am a regular middle class woman like you who got into arranged marriage at the age of 23 years simply because you must get married when you reach a certain age and when your parents say. After one year of customary honeymoon it was time to hit the next milestone – motherhood. And, with this began the 10 long and grueling years of fighting infertility.Post 5 miscarriages, 3 molar pregnancies, 1 failed IVF, a brush with ovarian cancer and finally successful pregnancy on second IVF attempt- I stand here in front of you to openly talk about my Infertility journey.
Today, I have little AB baby to shower my love and enjoy the journey of motherhood but I can never forget the pain and suffering, the loneliness, the depression and desperation, the feeling of being cut-off from society and the turmoil within during this journey. It has made me who I am today. It is a very important part of my life and my personality.
My tryst with infertility over a period of 10 years has convinced me that there are a lot of women out there who suffer in silence and one must reach out to them. There is an urgent need to reach upto them and tell them,
“You are not alone”.
There are many layers of suffering through the process of IVF – medical, physical, mental, psychological, financial, and social that leads to marital discord, falling into depression, even to the extent of getting suicidal, cutting oneself off socially, and a lot of trauma. There are cycles of hope and frustration. There are choices to make. There are tough decisions to take. I have been through all this. The path to IVF is no easy task. Only the brave can tread through. And, today through this blog I want to salute each and every couple who is or has been through IVF.
Academically, I am a JNU pass out (so feminism runs in my blood innately) and professionally I have been involved in the e-commerce space for over 8 years now. I started as a content writer picking odd content jobs from sites like odesk and Elance. Thereafter, I learnt the art and worked with brands like MakeMy Trip, Educomp and Policybazaar in their content marketing space with the last designation as Content Manager. I did climb up the ladder quickly! I realized I was passionate about blogging and how it can cause difference to people’s life. I have a travel blog, Travel By Karma where I share my tell-tales about offbeat destinations and experiences. Well, as God would want it I had a burning desire to do something about people suffering infertility for I had experienced the pain first-hand and then I had blogging skills. I found my true calling in combining this to create awareness and support for infertility. That’s my story
My IVF journey motivated me to reach out to women on a similar journey. I want to hold your hand, facilitate right guidance so that you can take good decisions and stay away from misleading advertisements and fraud clinics, answer your queries, keep you motivated throughout this tough phase of life, reinforcing your strength and hope, help you #StandUp and fight society’s stereotypes and prejudices, and simply to reassure that everything is gonna be alright.
#BaatTohKaro #StandUp #OpenUp #Break Taboos #SpreadAwareness #Support
I can’t do all this alone. I want you to #OpenUp your heart, and only then can I touch yours.
Feel free to write to me and if you would like to share your story or an experience with other ladies so that you can make a difference to someone else’s infertility journey then you are most welcome. You can even share or contribute anonymously. I understand.
I am happy that there are a few like-minded people who empathize with couples undergoing infertility journey have decided to join this cause and help as per their expertise. I am forever indebted to them.